please remember that, regardless of how continuously society tries to remind you that you exist for the pleasure of men, you are not actually property that can be stolen. anyone who tries to make you believe otherwise can fuck go themselves, even pretty famous boys. don’t forget it.
It’s amazing that people will see a kid yelled at or manhandled by a parent and say “It’s not my business, you can’t tell someone how to raise their kid” but if someone lets their son wear a dress it’s a public discussion.
my grandfather always had candy in his pockets, and one time when I got really sick and I was hospitalized my dad told him not to give me any candy. He pulled out his pockets to show he hadn’t even brought any and I got really sad but as soon as my dad walked out of the room he then proceeded to take off his hat and had 2 chewy chocolate candy toffees and 2 orange fanta toffees, and I’ll never forget the happiness and surprise I felt in that one moment in my entire life.
All my life I've had problems with getting close to people; I've never had a close friend to last for more than a year. It's like I'm constantly renewing the people in my life and I don't want that. I used to think that I was just choosing the wrong friends but it's not possible to have 20 years of bad choices. It's also hard for me to fall in love or to let someone fall for me cause they never really tried enough. The problem has got to be with me right?
Identify WHY you are really pushing the person away. Close your eyes and visualise the person in your head-listen to yourself. How do you feel when you see this person’s face? Threatened? Nervous? Bare that feeling inside.
The majority of the time, people push others away because of an underlying issue with themselves. Usually this is a trust issue, commonly found in relationships. If you have been hurt in the past, it is understandable that you are wary of letting another person get that close to you ever again. The thought may seem ridiculous . As hard as it may seem, you WILL trust again. You will conquer the negative feelings and overcome them, to be the confident, strong person you are.
Talk to somebody; this is a MAJOR step to opening up. It’s simple, easy and incredibly refreshing. You don’t have to go into detail; just to unload some feelings can be a world of help, and help you to realise that you’re not alone in your feelings.
VALUE YOURSELF. Think positive thoughts whenever you feel down-make a list of the things that make you special and unique. I bet you can write down more than you think. Also, ask somebody else to write down a thing or two-this will give you a feeling of self worth.
Realise that not everybody will hurt you. Sure, some people will, but by not allowing yourself to get close to anyone, think of all the things you’re missing out on. The most overlooked things; shopping trips with the girls you wouldn’t dare talk to in case they didn’t like you, dates with the guy you thought was too good for you. There are people out there who appreciate and love you for who you are.
If you feel like you can’t face the world today, do what us people do best. FAKE IT! Repeat positive mantras in your head such as; I am strong and I can achieve anything. You WILL start to believe it.
Get out there. Grab every opportunity and begin to TAKE RISKS. This will help your confidence and help you meet as many new people as you can.