Because neither do I. Every day you affect people even when you’re not trying to. Just by existing you are shifting the lives and perspectives of others. You could have a greater impact than you could ever know.
I cannot say how much you matter, only that you definitely do.
1. train your mind to sit the mind is like a puppy: easily distracted. and in the same way you train a puppy, we must train our minds. if you’ve gotten used to overloading yourself with thoughts of next week, month, and year (we often call this “planning”), stop. take a moment to breathe deeply. licking, nibbling, and gnawing obsessively on next week - when THIS week is still here to be enjoyed - just exhausts you.
2. stop thinking, start writing to-do lists are a wonderful way to stay focused on the moment before you. start each day by making a list of everything you want to accomplish, then address one thing at a time. let the list, not your mind, carry the weight.
3. give yourself permission to feel feelings - even the unpleasant ones - keep us present in our body. life is a process in which everything that unfolds is meaningful and purposeful. every feeling has a message and a lesson. take a moment to feel, listen, and learn.
How to Overcome Emotional Detachment or Emotional Numbness
1. The first thing to do is to choose to respect and allow all emotions – no matter what they are. Also, try and grasp the fact that suppressing your emotions will likely lead to heartache and problems later on (as they’ll possibly resurface at inappropriate times.)
2. Try and understand that feelings and actions are two very different, and unrelated, things. That is, you can still feel angry without becoming violent – so don’t assume your feelings will affect your actions, too.
3. Try to figure out the message behind intense emotions. Are you angry because you’ve been hurt, used or abused? Are you sad because deep down you feel that you’ll never find true love - as you can’t believe that anyone will love you for yourself?
4. Take that risk – and find the courage to ask someone for help. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know that there are those who genuinely love you like – like a true and caring friend. The important thing is not to try and isolate yourself, and to make the extra effort to prioritise self-care. You need other people to help you work through this.
5. Seek professional help if the symptoms persist. There are excellent counsellors and therapists out there who have the training and skills to help you to get free – so you can live a more fulfilling and normal, healthy life.
6. Be patient within yourself. It’s likely to take time – as you will need to learn to trust, and take some barriers down, so you can be yourself again (and that is often hard to do when you’ve experience hurt and pain).
I was wearing my Gryffindor shirt while Christmas shopping and there was this cute boy in a Slytherin hat and we made eye contact and he looked me up and down and said “10 points to Gryffindor” and winked at me and normally I hate being hit on but damn son that’s the way to do it
Does anyone else have like several songs that they love but are constantly skipping because the atmosphere has to be just right and you have to be able to completely immerse yourself in it for those few minutes without any distractions