“I try to remind myself when I feel great like this that there will be another terrible week coming someday, so I should store up as many great details as I can, so during the next terrible week, I can remember those details and believe that I’ll feel great again. It doesn’t work a lot, but I think it’s very important to try.”

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“I wish someone had told me at 15: ‘You accept the love that you think you deserve’.

I would have approached my relationships completely differently if they had. I like this idea of quality control: that we don’t have to accept just anyone into our lives. People talk about love as though it just happens to you - as though you’re a victim in it all, when actually you can make good choices and bad. But women have a natural tendency to want to nurture and take care of men.

You always think that the guy is going to end up coming around and that you’re going to be the one that saves him - like the Oasis song. Actually I don’t think that you can change other people, but women always hope for the best.”

“You can’t just sit there and put everyone’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love.”